It really upsets me when people act like some things are just so easy. Just because something is easy for one person doesn’t mean that it’s easy for everyone. Like making friends. It’s something that’s never been easy for me - I’m shy, introverted and sensitive. For what it’s worth, I’m an INFJ - the least common personality type. Most people think I’m weird. Maybe I am, I don’t know.
So it hurts when people give me clichéd, tired advice. “Just introduce yourself! Say hello to someone new! Ask someone to do things with you!”
Yeah, that’s great, if it doesn’t give you palpitations and leave you so distressed you want to throw up. So easy, right?
The worst part is that I do try, so much more than I’m comfortable with. I do try to make conversation, even when I’m red and flustered and my heart is pounding in my ears. Even when I know I’m going to replay it back in my head over and over again and hate myself for all the mistakes I made. Even when reaching out to others still doesn’t get me anywhere.
Maybe it’s easier for some people, the ones who’ve experienced kindness more often than they’ve been hurt. I’m not one of those people. Maybe those people just recover from the hurt easily. I’m not like that, either.